“Move ***; get out the way” is a perfect line from Ludacris’ song to describe the shift in my world right now. I am moving out of my own way, stepping out of my own box, and making a bold mindset shift.
Today is my 40th birthday and with conviction and flair, my declaration is being FEARLESS at 40! Fearless at 40, huh? Well, let’s talk about being 40 first of all. Turning 40 is nothing more than a milestone to me and a measuring gauge for my goals. I do not feel old nor am I having a midlife crisis or any of the typical sentiments people seem to have at this age.
Now, the fearless part… Some major life and business revamps and evolutions have begun to take place for me. I intentionally made these decisions based on what I want my future to look like. My ultimate goal is to transition from standing behind the chair by 50. I know. I know. Hold on. I know what you may be thinking, “NaKeitha, you are hair. Hair is you.” You are right. To an extent, that is. Yes, I have been a hairstylist for the past 25 years since my teen years assisting my mother and obtaining my own license and opening my own salon, two be exact. But, I want more. Hair has definitely been my bread and butter and it is so fulfilling. It has also been a platform for me to rise up and flourish. Behind my chair, I hear words from women about being stuck, seeking advice about what’s next, and making bold moves. From behind the same chair, I offer encouragement and empowerment. Now, I want to walk in the same power shoes I encourage them to wear.
Being fearless is about taking risks. People take risks at 40, right? For the most part at 40, your risks are safer with evidence and more of a guarantee that the move about to made will be successful. The risks I am venturing into are the complete opposite. I am shifting into a complete reversal of being a stylist and transforming into consulting. On the road to 50, there will be a gradual decline in my time behind the chair and an increase in my consulting business. The shifts and preparations include knowing a pay cut will be involved (just for a while anyway), investing into the unknown (there goes those risks again), and relying more on what God has placed in me (using my faith to maximize my talents and gifts).
I have created a platform for women titled “The Fearless Female Forum”. This platform will give women the tangible tools, networks, and authority to make a shift or shifts in their own world. I have planned and scheduled a retreat for March 2019. By that time, I will be 6 months into 40. The NaKeitha today will not be the same NaKeitha at 40 and a half. My mindset will be on the incline of growth and power. I am getting out of my own way. And as Ludacris went on to say “causing confusion, disturbing the peace”, I will be a disrupter and breaking up the monotony of life. Find out more about the retreat at www.thefearlessfemale.org .
Pretty bold? Too bold? Not at all. Along with those risks and fearless mindset comes a shift in my relationship with the only One who can make all of this happen for me. I walk boldly into His promises and His light with anticipation of being blessed in return. God cares for me and never said I, or any of us for that matter, have to do one job or task our entire lives. He has designed life for our growth in order to shift us and shift others around us into higher spaces. Think about that. Have you ever gotten something, a job, a new position, or a gift because there was a shift in line and the blessing came to you? Without growth, shifts cannot happen. So, my spiritual journey is on the increase also. It is the core of everything I have set out to do. It will be the strongest part of my life and show its evidence in my relationship with my husband. He is beyond supportive of me and my aspirations and we can only attribute that to our faith in God and that our marriage is centered around Christ. With our marriage being God-centered, it allows our household to be also. Our children will have the legacy and foundation of life we are aiming for them to have. We are setting them up for success through exposure to options we never knew about until our adult lives. And this spiritual relationship with God has also allowed my heart to open more and become a mother to my young sister, Tasha. Talk about shifts in the atmosphere! That’s another blog though.
Fearless at 40 is also embracing my health and financial well being. I am about 10 pounds away from what would be a healthy weight for me in terms of numbers. A healthy body is so much more than numbers though. My body looks great. I feel good, but I am a new sufferer of genetic hypertension. With this discovery, I have to be more deliberate about my lifestyle and choices. Which rolls right over into being more financially fit as well. Remember that pay cut I talked about earlier on? Well, I recognize my investments need to be stronger and deeper and my spending needs to decrease. These fearless and power moves will set my plans to work for me to lead me to my goals.
For me, Fearless at 40 all about being Fierce at 50! You work backwards in life. Set your goal and then plan backwards of how to accomplish it. At 50, I will be a source and force to be reckoned with. Here at 40, I am releasing fears and taking risks to make that happen!
Happy 40th Birthday to me and Happy 9th Birthday to my greatest birthday gift, Jeremy B. Ross, whom I am honored to be his mother to and share this day with.