Happy Friday Fearless Females!
Can we address our sentiments and thoughts today? Fearless Friday is designed to uplift, encourage, and address the realities of life with a push to move forward or continue to. This is hard. I knew immediately I wanted to talk about what we all are thinking about this week and likely will for some time- Kobe Bryant. I also did not want to end our week solemnly the way we began it.
We all felt the shock of the news. Some of us were resting on that Sunday, just left church and were headed off to brunch, or maybe you were like me and were already at an event. I actually was in attendance at PUSH Girls Academy Brunch hosted by CleRenda McGrady, wife of Tracy McGrady. As we all learned the news of Kobe’s passing and then confirmation of his daughter Gianna’s passing along with the other passengers, sitting in a room at an event hosted by another retired basketball player and his wife was nearly like being there firsthand.
I do not want to relive the moment second by second, yet I must acknowledge my feelings and ours collectively. Kobe Bryant was a man of distinction that exerted his status and power in a way of positive influence. He lived his life purposely to defy opposition and present allied work and cohesiveness. He strived for more than excellence and attained that.
Family was more valuable to him than basketball. Basketball was his outlet to provide legacy and experiences for his family. #GirlDad was all him. He and his family both took pride in his presence off the court. He began utilizing a helicopter to be more present in the lives of his daughters and their everyday lives such as school drop-offs and pickups, school events, home dinners, and such. His wife, Vanessa, was the glue of their family and much more than just Kobe Braynt’s wife. She was his friend, lover, confidant, and mother of his living legacy- his children.
I firmly believe he loved all four of his daughters with great passion and each for their own special reasons. He took to becoming more interested in volleyball as his eldest daughter, Natalia, gained an interest. Her birth was the bridge that brought their two families together. Bianka, his third daughter, is the bright and joyous spirited 3 year old. His namesake, 7-month-old Capri Kobe, will forever hold her father close through memories and stories told of him. And then, there is Gianna. His second daughter who was determined to carry his legacy on and their bond of basketball only brought them closer. While no parent ever wants to lose a child, being with her earthly father as she passed on to meet her heavenly Father is a comfort.
What have we learned this week other than life is short and to value family?
Be intentional and go forth in the direction of your dreams. Hundreds of Kobe pictures and quotes have surfaced on social media over the past 6 days. What has resonated with me was his tenacity to be progressive and outshine himself. He trained and put in the work to not only be a better player but a better person.
The link below features Kobe during an interview and right about the 24-minute mark he speaks on fearlessness. He stated, “the greatest fear you face is yourself… It is scary because if you put your heart and soul into it, then how are you going to feel about yourself. So, being fearless means putting yourself out there and going for it.”
We cannot allow life to deter us from our dreams and desires. Rather, we must allow life to be lived as a result of our dreams and desires. The untimely passing of Kobe is a different pain because there was not any illness leading up to it or as a result of a natural disaster. It just happened and shook the entire world. While we are acknowledging we have an obligation to live life to the fullest, we need to also acknowledge we have an obligation to ourselves to press forward with all vigor. In a matter of weeks, the energy around this will slowly fade as in most situations when we are not directly involved. But, we need to keep it front and center to maintain our focus on what is prevalent or should be in our world.
We hurt not because we knew him personally. We hurt because he invited us into his world and he gave back to us without even knowing us. Make a conscious effort to continue pray for his family and the other families as well. We are their strength until they can stand.
Live with a Mamba Mentality. Go after everything with force and leave nothing uncovered.
Perspective with Kobe Bryant